It started with the questions parents asked in the parking lot.
From that side of the table, I watched parents walk in with the same look. Shoulders up near their ears. A folder of papers gripped a little too tightly. Eyes scanning the room to figure out who was who before anyone had said a word. They knew their children well. The unfamiliar terms and the pace of the conversation could still make it hard to find a moment for their questions. I saw it more times than I can count.
There were meetings where a mom would say almost nothing the whole hour. She would nod. She would take notes. She would hold her real question until the parking lot afterward, then ask it almost apologizing for needing to ask at all. By then the meeting was over and the IEP was already signed. She just needed five minutes before the meeting started, not five minutes she had to steal after it was over.
In 2011 I wanted to be home with my own children and to homeschool them, so I stepped out of the classroom and started SMART IEP Solutions. The name is deliberate. Teachers are trained to write goals that are SMART: specific, measurable, attainable, relevant, and time-bound. A vague goal is the most common weak spot I find in an IEP, and teaching people to write goals that are not vague is exactly what I did for my district. It is what I do for parents now. Since then I have sat with families across this state and taught them how to read what is in front of them and ask for what their child needs.
Outside this work, I am married to Stuart, and we have four children: Jasmine, Josie, Jacoby, and Jaison. Jacoby is forever 3. After we lost him, Stuart and I co-founded Jacoby's Shield, a nonprofit that walks with bereaved parents, grandparents, and siblings. I mention it here because it is part of why I sit the way I do with a parent who is frightened about their child.
Knowing how to write an IEP is what lets me read yours. I know what a strong goal looks like, because I wrote them and I taught other people to write them. I know where the language goes vague, what tends to get left out, and what a school means by the words it uses. That is what I bring to your side of the table now. I help you understand what you are looking at and prepare for a conversation about what your child needs.


